MINDSET and STRESS MANAGEMENT
1. Importance of mindset in healing osteoporosis.
2. Setting the tone for a simplified journey.
3. Framing mindset with three thoughts.
4. Sharing five tools for managing the mind.
5. Q&A session.
Categories of Stress
1. **Removable Stress**: Stress that can be eliminated by making decisions (e.g., leaving a bad relationship, setting work boundaries).
2. **Persistent Stress**: Stress that requires patience and cannot be quickly eliminated (e.g., political climate, health issues like osteoporosis).
Stress Management Approaches
1. **Self-Care Practices**: Breath work, exercise, meditation, journaling, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).
2. **Mind Management**: Being aware of the thoughts the brain serves and managing them to reduce stress.
Two Phases of a Health Journey
1. **Observation Mode and Curiosity**: Becoming a non-judgmental observer of thoughts and feelings.
2. **Implementation and Experimentation**: Developing and experimenting with a plan based on observations.
Framing Mindset with Three Thoughts
1. **Overwhelm**: It's normal and manageable.
2. **Osteoporosis as a Healing Portal**: It can lead to healing more than just bones.
3. **The Body Wants to Heal**: Trusting the body's innate ability to guide back to health.
Tools for Managing Mindset
1. **Celebration**: Recognizing and celebrating small wins to reinforce positive neural pathways.
2. **Expanders**: Finding role models who have achieved similar goals to bolster belief in one's own potential.
3. **Thought Model (CTFAR)**: A framework to analyze and shift thoughts, feelings, and actions to achieve desired results.
Interactive Session: Thought Model (CTFAR)
Closing Remarks
* **Future Sessions**: A part 2 session will be scheduled to cover additional tools.
* **Resources**: Participants encouraged to share wins and seek support within the community.
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Edie Feffer: Okay, great. Thanks, Brett. My name is Edie, and I have been a health coach for 9 years in my private practice, and I joined Dr. Doug's team about 4 months ago, and I'm so happy to be here and to get to talk with you today. Health coaching is my life's work, and one aspect of it that I'm especially passionate about is
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Edie Feffer: mindset and our emotional wellbeing.
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Edie Feffer: And this is going to be the topic that we coach on together today, specific to stress management.
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Edie Feffer: My goal with our time together today is to help you reduce stress by learning how to manage your mindset and mindset is where I begin with every single patient.
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Edie Feffer: My intention is that I want this health Span nation meeting to feel like 60 min of nourishing support for you. My goal is to help you leave feeling more calm and grounded, and more confident about what your path to healing osteoporosis is, and we can find clarity
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Edie Feffer: on what your path forward looks like with much more ease
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Edie Feffer: by reducing our stress and starting to manage our mindset.
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Edie Feffer: So I'll set the agenda just to let you know where we're going. And 1st we're gonna start to talk about why, mindset is step one to healing your osteoporosis, and then we'll set the tone for the head space that we're in.
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Edie Feffer: As we work towards simplifying your journey. We're gonna frame our mindset with 3 thoughts, and then 3, rd we'll get into the juicy stuff. I'll share 5 tools that you can start to experiment with, to manage your mind.
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Edie Feffer: And then finally, we'll close with questions, and, like Breda said, feel free to share what's coming up for you in the chat as we move through this discussion because there will be opportunities for you to get coached, and certainly to ask questions.
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Edie Feffer: So how do we manage stress? I like to break it down into 2 different categories.
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Edie Feffer: And the 1st category of stress is the stress that we can remove right. There are some instances where we can get rid of the source of our stress. A couple of examples of that could be. If you're in a bad relationship, you can make a choice to leave right. If you're feeling depleted with work, perhaps we can experiment with implementing better boundaries. These are sources of stress that we can eliminate.
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Edie Feffer: But what if you can't just quickly get rid of the stress. What do you do then?
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Edie Feffer: This is the category of stress that we're going to be focused on today. The stress where it isn't just a quick fix.
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Edie Feffer: The stress that requires patience and examples of these kinds of stressors could be the political climate. It could be a health issue that takes time to heal like osteoporosis, right
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Edie Feffer: that can feel overwhelming. It can feel worrisome, it can feel scary, and none of that has to be a problem.
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Edie Feffer: And so within this second category of stress, the stress that you can't just quickly eliminate. There are 2 ways that we can start to deal with it at this level, to bolster your resilience to this kind of stress right option. One is that we can utilize self care practices with tools like the ones I've listed here. Breath work.
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Edie Feffer: exercise, meditation, journaling, eft. There are lots of tools that can effectively help you manage stress. And these are all valuable practices that I use in my personal life.
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Edie Feffer: But that's not our focus. Today. We're focused on option 2. Learning how to manage your mind, learning how to be on to your brain and aware of the thoughts that it's serving you. And even though I have this listed as option 2, this is actually step one to reducing your stress.
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Edie Feffer: This part of the work, this part of stress management is one of my favorite things to coach on, because, as you start to be onto your brain onto the thoughts that it's serving you.
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Edie Feffer: it can quickly create such an incredible amount of peace, of freedom, of control
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Edie Feffer: and confidence in what can feel like an overwhelming or stressful situation? Right?
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Edie Feffer: And so.
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Edie Feffer: before we dive in how it, before we dive into how you can start to do this. I always like to share a caveat with my patience, and.
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becky: And to wait.
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Edie Feffer: What's that?
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becky: They have. I don't even know we we.
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Edie Feffer: Are we good Britta.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Yeah. Go ahead. Keep going.
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Edie Feffer: Okay. Okay, okay, cool. I wasn't sure if someone was interrupting with the question, but part of my job as your health coach is to help you develop a deep, deep bench of health and wellness, tools that work best for you and your unique body and your brain and mindset, right and
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Edie Feffer: just like with food. This part of a health journey. The approach that we take to mindset is bio individual right, meaning what works for one patient or person may not be what works best for you. And so I view this part of the work, this part of a healing journey.
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Edie Feffer: as this really fun process where we get to experiment with different tools, techniques and approaches to unlock the combination of
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Edie Feffer: mindset techniques, self care practices that work best for you, and so I always encourage my patients to share what's working, what's not working what they like, what they don't like, and that's what I'd like you to do here in the chat as we're moving through this topic. Right? It's this beautiful journey, like I mentioned of you
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Edie Feffer: reconnecting to your body, increasing your self Trust, and starting to feel more calm and grounded with the tools that you discover work best for you.
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Edie Feffer: so why we start with mindset
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Edie Feffer: over the course of 9 years of coaching, I have found that mindset is often the missing link.
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Edie Feffer: when you're working towards healing, if you're on a health journey. This was something that was true for me, and my personal health challenges right specific to hormones and weight loss.
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Edie Feffer: Mindset has to be a part of a transformation. When you're given a scary diagnosis, it's really easy to want to jump into go mode.
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Edie Feffer: And we start thinking about all of the things that we should be doing. It's easy to get overwhelmed when we consider all of the pieces of the puzzle that have to come together to heal right. And it's at that point where we're starting to think about nutrition, movement supplements, sleep, stress, the blood work. All of these things
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Edie Feffer: fall to the back burner or to be overlooked or neglected. And, like I mentioned, it's such a critical part to creating a transformation and to healing with more ease. I always say that slowing down to do this part of the work, to address your mindset, to start to be onto your brain, and the thoughts that it's serving you
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Edie Feffer: is how we speed up your results.
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Edie Feffer: So
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Edie Feffer: of health coaching and of a healing journey. I always say we wanna get your brain on board with where we're going first, st and when you do that, when you slow down to speed up your results in this way you'll be met met with much less resistance. You'll be met with more resistance if you just jump into action.
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Edie Feffer: And
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Edie Feffer: you aren't taking note of how you're thinking and what you're feeling. And I'm gonna start to talk about how we can be onto the mind in this way. Now, before we do that, I'd love for you to share in the chat. Just what thoughts are you noticing right now about osteoporosis.
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Edie Feffer: Is there anything that's stressing you out?
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Edie Feffer: Is there any part of this journey that's making you anxious?
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Edie Feffer: You can drop that in the chat, and I'll share some examples right? Like it's very normal for the brain to wander down a what if rabbit hole?
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Edie Feffer: So what if this doesn't work is a thought, I hear often, what if I fall again
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Edie Feffer: when we're on this journey together? Some patients can get stuck in a spin cycle of worry also normal and not a problem. That could be tied to fears of the unknown, feeling anxious about lab results or
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Edie Feffer: concerned about the unknowns that come with hormone replacement therapy right?
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Edie Feffer: seeing that it's a boatload of supplements, right? We're just starting to jot down
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Edie Feffer: or release any of the thoughts that you're noticing in your brain, and we're putting them into the chat right?
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Edie Feffer: And we're going to utilize those thoughts later, as as we start to talk about this, and these are thoughts that you can start to be onto, that you can come back to to experiment with the 5 tools that I'm going to give you today.
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Edie Feffer: I wanna talk about how we can start to manage your mindset to reduce your stress by being onto your brain. And when I think about health coaching or being on a health journey, I break it down into 2 distinct phases, and there's overlap with each of the phases.
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Edie Feffer: So whether you're coaching with us in Ob, or if you're independently pursuing your bone health journey, I think it can be very helpful to be mindful of these 2 phases, and to have clarity around which one are you currently in so phase? One is observation, mode, and curiosity.
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Edie Feffer: Phase 2
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Edie Feffer: is implementation and experimentation. And again, there's overlap between these 2 phases, and I'm going to break down how each one works right now.
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Edie Feffer: So in phase one.
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Edie Feffer: I'm wanting you to become what I describe as a gentle.
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Edie Feffer: And I'm wanting you to start to just observe, through a lens of curiosity.
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Edie Feffer: W. Your thoughts and feelings right when I'm doing this work in my personal life for my own health. I'm picturing it like I'm in a movie or like, you're just this 3rd party observer hovering above yourself and starting to watch yourself move throughout your day, and I'm wanting you to start asking yourself 3 questions.
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Edie Feffer: What am I thinking?
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Edie Feffer: What am I feeling?
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Edie Feffer: And do I like my choices?
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Edie Feffer: What am I thinking?
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Edie Feffer: What am I feeling?
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Edie Feffer: And do I like my choices right? We're just starting to cultivate awareness. We're starting to be onto the mind. The more you start to implement, phase one, the more you'll start to separate yourself from your thoughts and realize I am not my thoughts right? You get to create a new identity. That's such a fun. Part of being on a healing journey and awareness whoopsies I got ahead of myself is how we start to cultivate.
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Edie Feffer: or I'm sorry awareness learning how to be onto your brain. Is step one to creating freedom.
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Edie Feffer: And so right. Now I'm offering you the thought
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Edie Feffer: there's a way that you can heal your osteoporosis. You can be on this journey where it feels peaceful
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Edie Feffer: where you are able to reduce your stress where it is this portal to increasing your self, trust to optimizing your health, and we start to do that
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Edie Feffer: by increasing our awareness around our thoughts and feelings.
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Edie Feffer: wrapping our arms around that and then moving into phase 2 with phase one. I always picture it like, we're just becoming scientists together. We're putting on our white lab codes. And we're getting curious about the thoughts and feelings. And when you have those thoughts and feelings. You share them with your healthcare team. If you're working with us at Ob or with your healthcare team outside of this program.
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Edie Feffer: And so once we have your observations. We can move into phase 2, to develop a plan to help you start to reduce your stress
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Edie Feffer: phase 2 is implementation and experimentation.
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Edie Feffer: The data that we collect from phase one from you being an observation mode and getting curious about your findings.
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Edie Feffer: Is what will inform the steps that we take
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Edie Feffer: with phase 2 with implementation and experimentation. And so, as you're on a healing journey, we're collecting all sorts of data, right? Your thoughts and feelings are the 1st data point that we're collecting.
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Edie Feffer: We're also collecting your lab results.
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Edie Feffer: We're getting data from the entries that you give us in chronometer.
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Edie Feffer: We're getting data from the way your body responds to supplements. We're getting data from things like your sleep and stress.
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Edie Feffer: And the more that you can just get curious about what you're observing and thinking and feeling that'll help guide you or guide your healthcare team
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Edie Feffer: in terms of micro adjustments that we want to make to help you take your next step forward.
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Edie Feffer: and so you can start to see that as you work these 2 phases, we're always kind of weaving in and out of them. Right? So an example of this could be, we're in phase one. And we're observing what we're thinking and how we're feeling about our nutrition. Right? Isn't it interesting that I'm finding it hard to hit my target with protein?
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Edie Feffer: Okay, we share that. And now we're into implementation and experimentation with micro adjustments that we can make to help you reach that goal with more ease, and you may play with those adjustments or those tools. And you're back in observation mode. Is it working? What am I thinking? What am I feeling? Am I liking my choices right?
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Edie Feffer: And one final thought on this concept of the 2 phases of a health journey
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Edie Feffer: is really just to stress the importance of curiosity.
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Edie Feffer: I always let my patience know. And I wanna let you know, too here that as I encourage you to become a gentle, non judgmental observer, know that as your coach, I'm never judging anything that you do or don't do
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Edie Feffer: none of it's a problem, right?
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Edie Feffer: And so if you were to come to us in this health span nation session, or to your coach or to your healthcare team right?
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Edie Feffer: If you're noticing thoughts like hitting my protein is hard. I'm struggling with the workouts. I'm having a hard time with the supplements, right? We just get to examine those thoughts through a lens of curiosity, and we can start to poke holes at them. We can troubleshoot from there. It could be? Is it an unhelpful thought or a limiting belief that simply needs to be dismantled?
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Edie Feffer: Do you need new tools? Do you need new strategies? It could be a combo of all of these things.
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Edie Feffer: but you can start to see that when you're approaching your healing journey
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Edie Feffer: through this lens, through a lens of curiosity
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Edie Feffer: through an approach where you're onto your thoughts and feelings.
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Edie Feffer: addressing your mindset and getting to the root of any of the thoughts that have been hindering your progress or keeping you stuck is going to help you be able to implement a plan that's doable
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Edie Feffer: and sustainable.
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Edie Feffer: and all that's required is radical honesty and communication, right radical honesty with yourself and radical honesty with your healthcare team. And you'll be on a path to a lasting transformation.
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Edie Feffer: Before we move into the next portion of this discussion. I just wanted to pause here to say that this oftentimes feels like a hidden gem or a hidden benefit to our platinum experience program. It's really normal for us to hear in an initial consultation that patients are excited and surprised to see that
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Edie Feffer: thought work, that mindset is a part of the equation right? And I always say that
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Edie Feffer: I want you living a life you love in a body. You love feeling calm and grounded.
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Edie Feffer: And when we're approaching your health goals, when we're working towards healing your osteoporosis with starting to be onto your mind.
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Edie Feffer: you get into you step into expectant energy.
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Edie Feffer: and it can create a completely different experience for you. So again, this is why slowing down to do this work
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Edie Feffer: independently or with the guidance of our team
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Edie Feffer: can change. How easily
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Edie Feffer: you create your transformation, how peacefully your journey to optimal bone health is. And so I'll pause here just to hear how this is landing. So far I can't see any of the chats, Brett, but feel free to fill me in, or let me know if I should keep cruising.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Yeah. So everybody's had some really, really great feedback. It does seem like the common theme here is that people are really overwhelmed. With just all of their options, and wondering, you know, that they're waking up every day thinking about their Osteo process, and that's their 1st spot.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: and if they have severe osteoporosis. They're trying to do everything, but they don't know where to start. And then, you know, Hrt, and whether or not to start Hrt. And you know, if they miss their window, did they not do enough, like all of those emotions, are coming up in the chat right now?
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Edie Feffer: Okay, okay, great. I'm so glad that people are commenting, and it'll be fun to
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Edie Feffer: get coached or start to talk through those feelings and help pull you out of a spin cycle. So yeah, thank you for the participation.
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Edie Feffer: And we can. I I just want to quickly touch on health coaching. And
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Edie Feffer: I think this can be helpful, because you can start to find new ways to get into observation mode right? And so when you look at our pillars.
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Edie Feffer: nutrition, exercise, sleep, connection, mindset and spiritual connection.
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Edie Feffer: You can start to ask yourself, what thoughts are you noticing about each of these different pillars of your health.
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Edie Feffer: What feeling stores do you have towards your meals as an example? Right? What thoughts do you have around your sleep? Hygiene right now. Are you liking your choices within each of these pillars?
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Edie Feffer: Connection is a big one. When I think about the patience that I'm coaching right? Loneliness is a common one. And that could be specific to whether or not you live alone. You eat alone. You feel lonely in this journey, right? We're just getting curious.
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Edie Feffer: and the more you can give those thoughts a container to be released, whether it's in your journal or with your healthcare team, the easier it'll be for you to get out of your own way and to feel more calm and grounded, and to have clarity on your next step forward.
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Edie Feffer: and we're gonna start to talk about all that now. So we're gonna frame your mindset before we get into the tools.
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Edie Feffer: And we've covered the 2 different categories of stress, right? The stress we can just get rid of by making a decision. And the stress that requires more patience. We've started to talk through. Why, we begin with mindset when we're on a healing journey, and I've identified the 2 phases of a health journey. Right phase one is observation, mode, and curiosity and phase. 2 is implementation and experimentation.
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Edie Feffer: When we're framing your mindset, there are 3 thoughts that I want to offer you to help you make progress with more ease, and I'll list them out for you here, and then we'll break each one down. The 1st thought
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Edie Feffer: is that overwhelm is normal.
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Edie Feffer: You can learn how to manage your mindset with this and that part of your transformation is going to be just as exciting
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Edie Feffer: as it will be to heal your bones.
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Edie Feffer: 2 as scary as a diagnosis of osteoporosis can be.
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Edie Feffer: I want to offer you the thought that it can be a portal to healing more than just your bones.
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Edie Feffer: This is my favorite thought. I see nods, and I'm excited about that 3 is that the body wants to heal.
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Edie Feffer: Let that sink in the body wants to heal it wants to guide you back to optimal health.
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Edie Feffer: we can start to think about. How can we identify your 1st 3 steps right? There's a reason why, at the end of each coaching session, we're setting one to 3 small intentions, and I encourage you to always lower the bar and to set them smaller. Then your brain is telling you you should
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Edie Feffer: part of the head space that we're after to help you heal your bones. And it's this one that requires the belief that your body wants to heal.
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Edie Feffer: and one way that your body is guiding you back to health is through the messages that it's sending you, and there are lots of different ways that the body is communicating with us. Right? I list a few of them out here.
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Edie Feffer: One concept that I like to teach and coach on is the concept of the bread crumbs right? Because the body wants to heal.
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Edie Feffer: We're always just looking for the next breadcrumb, and it's guiding us back to optimal health. Breadcrumbs can be laid out for us in the form of the messages that the body is sending you like the ones I just described. But also when you're in a coaching session with us. That is 45 min.
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Edie Feffer: But also that's 45 min for you to process and reflect on what's working, what's not working? What do I want to do differently? And you can do this work independently in a journal, right? This is where slowing down will speed up your results, slowing down to start to be onto the thoughts and the feelings. And what's rolling in your round in your mind, will help
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Edie Feffer: the breadcrumbs be revealed. I always describe this part of the work. It's like we're just looking for these little gems that come through when you make space to actually hear what the body is saying, and part of this work, I think of it as
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Edie Feffer: so we can get into the fun stuff in terms of 5 tools that you can start to experiment with, to manage your mindset and reduce your stress. And how are we on time? I think we're good. so celebration.
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Edie Feffer: This is one of my favorite tools, and I'll talk through that 1. 1st we'll talk through the concept of expanders. We'll do the thought model the emotional guidance scale, and then I'll leave you with a journal exercise called Finding your why.
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Edie Feffer: and it's the concept of celebration, right? Celebration. We'll talk through how to do it. The science behind it, if you, if you're like me. I find science to be highly motivating. I am much more likely to actually do something if I understand what it's doing for my brain or my body. And like I mentioned, we're gonna have an opportunity to celebrate.
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Edie Feffer: And I can talk about this part. Now, vitamin g and vitamin. L, you get 2 more supplements and or vitamins. Right vitamin g is gratitude and vitamin. Li think of as love, and my hope is that when you're considering celebration, you view it through that lens, and you're giving yourself a daily dose of vitamin g and vitamin L. And so
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Edie Feffer: celebration is a critical part to a transformation, any transformation, whether you're working on healing your relationship with food.
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Edie Feffer: It's a tool that we can use for you to start to see yourself as the person who is healing her bones or his bones right? And so here's how you can start to do it. The idea with celebration
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Edie Feffer: We're always gathering up all of the evidence that this is already working, that you are already taking steps to heal your bones. And so examples of celebrations that patients share with me to get the juices flowing for you
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Edie Feffer: I'm proud of myself for downloading chronometer and using the Bar code scanner for the 1st time. I'm proud of myself for experimenting with a new protein source. The thing that I want you to see with these examples these celebrations is that they are easy for the brain to discount because they seem small.
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Edie Feffer: in terms of the science. Behind this, we're talking about plasticity, right? And plasticity is your brain's innate ability to create and strengthen new connections between neurons.
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Edie Feffer: The quickest way to shape your brain is to train it and mold it like plastic. That's neuroplasticity. And to me, that's such a freeing concept. Because how fun is it that we can retrain our brain
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Edie Feffer: but as we continue to celebrate your wins. And this is how I start every single coaching session with asking you, what are you most proud of between now? And when we met last month.
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Edie Feffer: it becomes this very well, deeply worn track. And that's what's happening in your brain. You're strengthening those neural new neural pathways. You're shifting yourself, concept, you're creating a new identity. And you're building your belief in yourself. We're getting your brain on board with where you're going first.st And so
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Edie Feffer: I encourage you in my personal life. I do this every day. I simply list 10 things that I'm thankful for. But the 1st 3 I want them to be wins for you things that you're proud of yourself for.
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Edie Feffer: big or small, you could do this work with an accountability partner with a loved one, with a friend, anyone who's supporting you in your osteoprosis journey. If you're in our program. You can do it via chat. These chats make my day like I want my inbox blown up with all of your wins. That's you slowing down to speed up your results. You can also do them in our monthly coaching sessions.
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Edie Feffer: So I will pause here, and you can drop your wins in the chat. I'd love to hear something that you're proud of yourself, for this is an opportunity you for you to start to be an observation mode. Notice is your brain
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Edie Feffer: It takes effort for the brain to find something to be proud of yourself, for, to celebrate. It's really easy for it to want to discount. How effective can this really be celebrating myself? But I promise you.
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Edie Feffer: my clients or my patients who get the best results, who reach their or who create what I call their high vibe habits, who start doing the things that they want to be doing to help yield their bones. The ones who are in an energy of celebration
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Edie Feffer: reach their goal with so much more ease and so yes, feel free to share anything that's coming through.
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Edie Feffer: I always want to give credit to the people who have influenced the way I teach and coach. And this expanders concept comes from a woman named Lacy Phillips. She had a year long program that I participated in and loved it. And an expander is someone who has created or achieved something in their life that you desire to have, or that you desire to create right? And so
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Edie Feffer: some aspect of their life that you can relate to or identify with, and an expander when we're thinking about this through the lens of an osteoporosis journey is going to be someone who can help you believe that it's impossible that it's possible for you to heal your bones, too.
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Edie Feffer: in my personal life I found a fragmented expander specific to food. Right. I don't like to cook. And so one of my limiting beliefs was that weight loss is gonna be really hard, because I don't know how to cook, and I don't like how I don't like doing it. But I found someone on social media
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Edie Feffer: An example from a patient that I got last week was she shared how she reconnected with an old friend, and as they were catching up she learned that her friend was on hormone replacement therapy and was having a really positive experience with it. Right? That story lit her up and bolstered her belief. And what's possible for her. So you can start to see that there's lots of different ways. You can utilize expanders
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Edie Feffer: and something that we're doing at. Oh, to help facilitate this is that we're building out a testimonial library, and then, like. Brett mentioned. We also have a slack channel where you can to your own horn or own horn, and I'll pause here just to hear if any of you have an expander already
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: but we do have some like successes here in the chat with people getting better sleep from eating more protein. At night. So oh, Cheryl, go ahead and unmute.
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Cheryl Edwards: So I want to share my success. I just had my annual physical blood work done. Although I won't get my Pm. P. One Np. Blood work done till Friday. My Ctx. Has dropped 62 points in the last year from 4 47 to 3 85, and I'm assuming it's gonna keep dropping
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Cheryl Edwards: I've been eating 150 grams of protein a day. Animal protein focused. I started taking a milk protein milk based protein, the
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Cheryl Edwards: So all of those little things added up, and there we go. Last last year my Ctx bumped up to 4 47, and it's always been in the mid 300, so I was really scared. But I took hold of the situation. I did something, and it all ended up, and then it lowered it.
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Cheryl Edwards: I think that I have started to open my mind and listen to different people. I had been listening to one person. I don't think that person was doing me a lot of good. So I opened my mind and started listening to drunk, joined his group. And I've implemented things that I've heard him say, and other people say, and it really does work.
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Edie Feffer: Yes, I, the when I'm celebrating for you, is your patience and your curiosity and your persistence to continue to explore, to find people who align with the approach that you wanna take.
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Edie Feffer: Okay, cool. This is an interactive activity. It's called the thought model. And this is one of my favorite tools to teach and coach on to help you learn how to be onto your thoughts and you can raise your hand if this is something that you'd like to participate in.
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Edie Feffer: we can call on a volunteer who wants to see this in real time. And so ctf AR again. I always like to give credit to the people who have helped me develop tools. That I utilize in my coaching practice, and this model comes from Brooke Castillo, from the Life Coach School. There are other coaches who utilize this model in a similar fashion.
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Edie Feffer: but I found it to be a highly effective way to pull yourself out of a spin cycle and to help you feel in control and gain clarity on what your next best step is right. And so C. Stands for circumstance with your circumstance. When we're when we're running this model together, we always want it to be tight and clean and concise, and I'll walk you through what this looks like with the volunteer who wants to experiment with this? Together.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: If Sharon wants to unmute. And, Edie, you can just go back to the 1st slide if you want to walk through it, or if you can stay on this slide. That's totally fine. But Sharon is going to do the activity with us.
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Edie Feffer: Okay, great. I'm I'm just wondering how I can edit this live.
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Edie Feffer: I'm gonna just make a Google doc real quick. And we can do it in that.
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Edie Feffer: Okay. Hi, Sharon.
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Sharon: Hi.
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Edie Feffer: Yeah, it's helpful from a coaching perspective, just to be able to see you. But I respect the fact. If you prefer to be off video as well. We can certainly work that way.
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Edie Feffer: Okay. So your circumstances that you have a 21 year old child who's not thriving
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Edie Feffer: And, Sharon, you're thinking, how do I support him in a helpful way. It's hard to not get frustrated. It's harder when they're an adult. I am finding it difficult to get services for him. There are all of these things that you have to do as well to take care of your own health. With your Osteo process and the overwhelm and feeling tired and stress. And what if my cortisol levels are high? Right?
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Edie Feffer: Okay, perfect, great. So, Sharon, when you're in this circumstance, and you're thinking about your 21 year old son not thriving right? And you're noticing the thoughts. I probably have high cortisol. I'm tired and stressed all the time. There's a lot of these other things that I need to be taking care of as well. It's difficult for me to get services for him. I'm trying my best to understand what his journey is like. It's harder when he's an adult.
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Edie Feffer: My brain wants a distraction, and I turn to social media, and I'm scrolling more when I'm feeling worried, overwhelmed, sad, stressed, frustrated. I eat differently. I use food to soothe. Maybe I get in a freeze response. I'm so overwhelmed I'm not doing the things I want to be doing right. We put our health on the back burner because we're trying to take care of everybody else.
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Edie Feffer: who is doing her best to show up fully to prioritize your health.
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Edie Feffer: like you're thinking about the health that you're modeling for him.
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Edie Feffer: You're feeling proud of yourself for the actions that you're taking.
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Edie Feffer: You're feeling proud of yourself for the woman that you're becoming as you heal your osteoporosis and
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Edie Feffer: support your son in a way that feels
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Edie Feffer: loving and peaceful to the best of your ability.
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Edie Feffer: What thoughts would you choose from that energy?
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Edie Feffer: Are you able to see anything there, or share anything there.
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Sharon: Put my actions.
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Edie Feffer: Of your thoughts.
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Sharon: Of my so just.
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Sharon: Okay of my thoughts. Am I thinking? I'm sorry I'm
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Edie Feffer: That's okay. So when we're running when we're running the model the second time. So we've identified this. These are my stressful thoughts. Right? We can run the model a second time to generate new thoughts, thoughts that we wanna start practicing to help us reduce our stress around this specific situation.
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Edie Feffer: And so these are the thoughts that we wanna be practicing to help us feel more confident to reduce our stress.
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Edie Feffer: and it may not change the circumstance that you're in. But we do get to choose the thoughts that we have around the circumstance, and those thoughts can create different feelings, a different action, and therefore a different result. Right? And so, if you're thinking about sharing your future self
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Edie Feffer: or your highest and best self, the version of you who is feeling confident in the actions that you're taking to support your son.
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Edie Feffer: The version of you who's being kind to herself, who's showing up fully the way she wants to to help heal your bones.
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Edie Feffer: I can help you generate thoughts. I can give you some ideas that I have just from the little interaction that we've had so far. But if if you have thoughts on like this is how I would be thinking about this situation, these are body loving thoughts.
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Edie Feffer: I'm curious to hear if anything comes through, and if not, I'm happy to help guide you.
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Sharon: Well, I think what I'm hearing is you want me to
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Sharon: find thoughts that
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Sharon: I
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Sharon: I can find
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Sharon: success in, or.
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Edie Feffer: Yes. Okay. Yeah.
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Sharon: So.
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Sharon: well, I
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Sharon: I have. I mean
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Sharon: the I have gotten
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Sharon: providers who are.
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Sharon: It's it's it takes a long time to get through the process. But
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Sharon: who are helpful.
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Edie Feffer: Great. I have providers who are helping me.
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Sharon: Well for my son, and well for myself, I I on my oste process I
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Sharon: found an obg yn that is willing to to prescribe
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Sharon: bio identical hormone therapy. But I'm not there yet. I'm I'm starting this process.
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Edie Feffer: But that's a win. What other? What other thoughts are? Helpful.
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Sharon: With with
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Sharon: with Hsn and the bone
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Sharon: foundation
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Sharon: course.
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Sharon: and well, I think.
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Sharon: trying to keep in that perspective
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Sharon: of
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Sharon: trying to empathize with my son
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Sharon: and
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Sharon: I guess. Give me proud that there are times where
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Sharon: I I mean
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Sharon: I bite my tongue a lot, not saying.
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Edie Feffer: Emotionally regulated.
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Sharon: Yeah, I do.
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Sharon: some. I I do eft tapping sometimes to help with
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Sharon: releasing
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Sharon: the anxiety and
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Sharon: worry.
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Edie Feffer: Wonderful.
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Sharon: And
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Sharon: yeah, try to still do for myself, like, I say.
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Sharon: I'm scattered. I kinda
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Sharon: you know.
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Edie Feffer: Notice right there, Sharon.
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Edie Feffer: We have 2 different thoughts that came out right there, right? I'm scattered.
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Edie Feffer: Feels like it would be up in that 1st model
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Edie Feffer: versus the one that led. I'm still showing up for myself.
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Edie Feffer: and
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Edie Feffer: neither is right or wrong. But we're just starting to be onto the brain
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Edie Feffer: right, and the thoughts that you're generating here.
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Edie Feffer: These are all wins. These are all ways that you're proud of yourself for.
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Edie Feffer: and
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Edie Feffer: and for the sake of time. I'll offer some some thoughts that I have around
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Edie Feffer: the care that you're providing your son right like. And when we're doing this work together it's important for the thoughts to actually land for you. So I always say, if I share a thought and your brain rejects it, it's like, I don't even believe that I would want you to tell me, because it needs to sink in enough. You need to believe it enough so that it starts to
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Edie Feffer: penetrate your subconscious and help you shift yourself, concept, and so your thoughts could be like, I'm doing the best I can for my son.
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Edie Feffer: I take great loving care of him.
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Edie Feffer: And we could continue down that path right
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Edie Feffer: when we're in this thought pattern around your 21 year old child, not thriving. And you're thinking
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Edie Feffer: about how you have providers that are supporting you both. You have a healthcare team for him, and now you have a healthcare team for you. You've joined health span nation. You're doing the bone foundation course I empathize with my son. I'm emotionally regulated. I have resources to help me manage my anxiety. I use eft tapping. I'm still showing up for myself. I'm doing the best I can for myself and my son. I take loving care of him. I take loving care of myself
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Edie Feffer: right when you're in that energy. What feeling in the body do you notice.
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Sharon: well reduced anxiety.
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Edie Feffer: Here's a list that could be helpful.
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Sharon: I guess. Compassion.
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Sharon: I feel
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Sharon: more
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Sharon: positive.
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Edie Feffer: Yes.
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Edie Feffer: yes.
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Edie Feffer: this is important to see that just these thoughts have generated a different energetic state.
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Edie Feffer: because a big part of healing your bone health journey as your coach. Part of my job is to help you reduce your stress to get you more in into more of a parasympathetic state. Right arrest and digest. And when you're doing the thought work.
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Edie Feffer: it's really fun to see that you slowing down in this way, Sharon, you're flooding your body with chemicals of compassion and positivity. It's like a dose of vitamin g of vitamin L. And your circumstance hasn't changed.
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Edie Feffer: That is a win to celebrate.
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Edie Feffer: and that will support you in your body's ability to build bone. Right? This is one way we're starting to utilize your mindset, to reduce your stress.
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Edie Feffer: And you're doing a fabulous job with it. And this this part of the work, like the thought model, is one I usually cover over multiple sessions, and
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Edie Feffer: and
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Edie Feffer: for the sake of time. I feel so badly that I didn't budget more time for this. It's 1 will be covering in depth in a group coaching program that I'll be leading on July 11th for any of those who are in our platinum experience and want to dive deeper into this. But for our purposes, Sharon and for our health span nation members. When you're feeling more compassion when you're feeling positive, when you're running around intentionally practicing the thoughts you've identified here.
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Edie Feffer: I've Jo. You're celebrating all the ways you've shown up for yourself. What action do you take?
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Edie Feffer: How is your day different?
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Edie Feffer: It could be in.
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Sharon: Could be? What.
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Edie Feffer: I didn't mean to interrupt you. Go go ahead!
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Sharon: I don't know. I guess
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Sharon: I feel more productive.
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Edie Feffer: Yes.
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Sharon: Well.
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Sharon: I can be more present
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Sharon: and
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Sharon: for I guess
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Sharon: I perhaps make make some
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Sharon: better choices when it comes to interacting with my son.
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Edie Feffer: How do you feel about you?
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Edie Feffer: What actions change? There.
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Sharon: for me.
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Edie Feffer: How did I?
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Sharon: I get I make more progress on my things.
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Edie Feffer: I think those are great great observations.
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Edie Feffer: Just to hear you say that I'm more productive. I can be more present. You're changing the quality of your life.
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Edie Feffer: the way you're showing up for yourself the way you're staying present for your son.
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Edie Feffer: and you're making better choices, right?
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Edie Feffer: That all creates a new, a new result.
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Edie Feffer: And
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Edie Feffer: when we're thinking about it specific to your bone health.
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Edie Feffer: do you have thoughts there? On what kinds of results, when you're
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Edie Feffer: navigating a day feeling proud of yourself when you're
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Edie Feffer: catching these kinds of thoughts. I'm showing up for myself. I'm doing the best I can with my son. Here are all of my wins. You're feeling compassion. You're feeling positive you're being more productive. You're being more calm and grounded. You're present. You're taking
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Edie Feffer: new inspired action from a bone. Health, perspective. What do you think? The results that we could expect would be.
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Sharon: Well, I would I would expect that.
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Sharon: It would help me to
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Sharon: improve my my, you know my bone metabolism.
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Edie Feffer: and healing.
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Edie Feffer: Love that right.
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Edie Feffer: With this particular example, you can start to see why, at Ob, we take a holistic approach to your health. Right? Yes, we're talking on those, or teaching or coaching on those bottom pillars of the pyramid that I outlined earlier in the presentation. But when it comes to stress. Nothing's off topic.
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Edie Feffer: because, as you start to choose new thoughts and feelings, you're putting yourself in a position to take inspired action with more clarity and confidence to help you reach your ultimate goal of building bone, while also feeling more peaceful about your relationship with your son
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Edie Feffer: and the way you're showing up for him the way you're showing up for yourself
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Edie Feffer: and
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Edie Feffer: The other thought that I want to share with with everyone is that there's lots of ways we can play with this model. Right? We're going to get into it in group coaching, you can run this model backwards. So if you have a result that you're wanting to create
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Edie Feffer: I'm wanting to heal my osteoporosis. We could work backwards. What actions would I be taking right?
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Edie Feffer: What feelings would I be choosing.
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Edie Feffer: I'd be choosing to feel pumped proud of myself, excited that I'm getting stronger excited that I'm experimenting with new foods right? What thoughts would I be practicing, I'd be practicing thoughts like I rock. I'm showing up for myself in new ways. I love that I have guidance. I love that I'm on the hunt for wins every day. I'm proud of who I'm becoming right, and the circumstance hasn't changed. It's I have osteoporosis, and I'm healing my bones
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Edie Feffer: right. And so I hate that. This is feeling a little bit rushed because it's 1 that takes time to sink in. I'd love to hear any thoughts or reflections from you, Sharon, or anyone who's observed, this is this model new to you? Is it something that you've utilized before?
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Edie Feffer: and
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Edie Feffer: I'm gonna
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Edie Feffer: switch to this and
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Edie Feffer: share the this part, and then I'll
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Edie Feffer: look to you, Brett, to see if there's any thoughts that have come through. But when you do this work, Sharon, like.
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Edie Feffer: at the end of a coaching session, I upload this document to your documents filed right? We'll we'll get this document to you because you did beautiful work, and I want you to be able to utilize this as you continue forward in managing your mindset. So the next step would be
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Edie Feffer: in the model that we wanna be living in you as your highest and best self, you becoming the woman who heals her bones. Right you go look through these thoughts that you've generated and picked the juiciest ones, the ones that resonate with you the most. Maybe it's all of them.
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Edie Feffer: and you can either print these and put them up on a wall. You can write them down and put them on a post it that you'll see every day. I like to record my juiciest thoughts in a voice note.
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Edie Feffer: and I listen to myself saying them as I'm cruising around my condo, cleaning up as I'm on a walk, as I'm getting ready in the morning. This is another way that you're creating new neural pathways in your mind.
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Edie Feffer: and starting to see yourself as this kind of woman. Right? You can run a model for any circumstance, whether it's stress related, a business goal, a health goal, whatever it is. And the other thing that we're doing as we
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Edie Feffer: as we move throughout our day, is really noticing. Do I like the model that I'm in.
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Edie Feffer: and if not, we can sit down and do this. Ctf, AR exercise.
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Edie Feffer: to start to just notice are there? And sometimes when we run this, it's like, Wow! A lot of these thoughts are mean.
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Edie Feffer: I need to upgrade myself. Talk, or some of them are limited beliefs that I just need to dismantle. None of the thoughts are a problem. They only become a problem. If they stay stuck. We need to give them air time in a coaching session and a journal session. Whatever it is. And so again, this is why we start with mindset, and I'll I'll pause there to get any feedback.
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Edie Feffer: From you, Sharon, on how this felt, or anyone else.
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Sharon: Well, I've never done this before. This model.
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Sharon: It was.
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Sharon: It was a it was harder than I thought it was. Gonna be.
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Sharon: I think.
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Sharon: I start to feel a little bit lost, and
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Sharon: maybe cause being on the spotlight, too. But
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Edie Feffer: Yeah.
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Sharon: You know, with
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Sharon: going through. So it was like, Oh, what did I say? If I swear
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Sharon: so?
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Sharon: yeah.
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Edie Feffer: I'm incredibly proud of you, Sharon, because you do.
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Edie Feffer: You're brave and vulnerable.
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Edie Feffer: that equals growth and transformation.
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Edie Feffer: And
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Edie Feffer: It can be difficult
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Edie Feffer: with when we're in the second model.
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Edie Feffer: If we're used to just running down an old track of concern worry, stress. Sometimes it takes the brain to even be open to the idea that there could be better feeling thoughts
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Edie Feffer: right. And the more we start to experiment with thought work, the more we start to get curious about the thoughts that the brain is serving us.
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Edie Feffer: The more you play with a thought model or the other tools that will cover in the future, the easier it is for you to start to operate in this place of positive, expectant energy and to more quickly move from one model to the other. It's never this
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Edie Feffer: process of
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Edie Feffer: of just flipping from a negative to a positive. I'm always sensitive to the way I teach this, because I never want it to feel like toxic positivity. Right? It's just how can we move to a better feeling, thought
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Edie Feffer: while respecting the initial thoughts that you shared.
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Edie Feffer: and Brett, I'm wondering if it would be best, knowing that I have 2 other tools left to cover. I'm wondering if what your thoughts are. Should I continue with the time that we're at, or potentially consider a part 2 and feel good that we've shared 3 so far and close. What are your thoughts?
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: David.
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Sharon: Mean to hold things up.
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Edie Feffer: No, Sharon, you didn't at all. It's the the model takes time, and that's my
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Edie Feffer: That was my
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Edie Feffer: misbudgeting with time. But I think it's a tool that can be so very effective, and so thank you for showing up so fully.
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Sharon: Thank you.
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Edie Feffer: Yeah.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Yeah, I think we could definitely do a part, too, and maybe do some more interactive deep dives with the other tools that we have as well, and then we'll get the things that we discussed today shared in slack and and wrap up. And if you have some helpful thoughts for people. But yeah, we'll definitely just plan for a part, too.
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Edie Feffer: Okay, cool.
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Edie Feffer: Let me skip ahead.
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Edie Feffer: Yes, I'll say,
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Edie Feffer: yeah, just to close before we go.
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Edie Feffer: I is everything good on your end. Brea.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Yeah.
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Edie Feffer: Okay, cool. I just got a weird notification. But yeah, if if you've enjoyed this, if you're in our platinum experience, know that our next group coaching program is going to be on this topic topic specifically, mindset.
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Edie Feffer: There's so many tools that we can utilize to help you be onto your brain to help you cultivate thoughts that feel peaceful, that help you stay calm and grounded, that help you feel in control with osteoporosis. Right? And so that'll be a 4 week program that'll start on July 11.th It's going to have more custom coaching. We'll have plenty of time for interactive experiences. We'll have group breakouts. I'm pumped, and I'd love to see you there and then.
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Edie Feffer: I shared 3 tools with you today. We'll do like a little summary and
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Edie Feffer: I would recommend picking one to 2 to play with first.st And if you're in our platinum experience, I know Julia and I would love to hear what's working what's not working, and so that we can help you start to develop, like I mentioned at the top of the call a deep bench of tools that you're pumped to play with in terms of managing your mindset.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Amazing. And I do think we could take a couple of minutes, too, because I know we've had some really, really great discussion in the chat. That if anybody Edie can stop sharing her screen, and then we'll gallery view, and then, if anybody wants to jump on and ask any questions about the content that we did cover, since it is nice and in depth, I think that would be. This is a great opportunity. If anybody does, wanna you know unmute? Go ahead and ask questions. It's a free for all right now.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Oh, Diane, I can can't hear you. You're unmuted, but I can't hear you.
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Diane K Miller: Okay, sorry. I have my microphone off.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Again.
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Diane K Miller: I'm not sure I actually have a question.
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Diane K Miller: I do work with Edie, one on one.
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Diane K Miller: but I do wanna say that it was really helpful to go through that model and
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Diane K Miller: I've always thought that attitude, and I've made a few comments on this. That attitude affects outcome, and that you can your attitude. And you could just look at other people and see how their attitudes are affecting their lives, and
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Diane K Miller: the ones that have the better
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Diane K Miller: thought process, and mindset are doing better. And so it was helpful to see see you go through this model with Sharon and and also the thought about working it backwards.
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Diane K Miller: I think, is a great idea. So and just refocusing on the fact that we we can control our thoughts and
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Diane K Miller: our mindset. And it does make a difference, makes a big difference, and especially reducing stress and stress is so detrimental to bone health.
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Diane K Miller: So I I think this has been really helpful.
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Edie Feffer: Thank you for sharing, Diana. It's so helpful to have your feedback.
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Edie Feffer: and I'm glad you have a new tool to play with.
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Diane K Miller: Yeah, thank you for doing this.
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Edie Feffer: Yes.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Amazing. Yeah, that's that's great feedback. Does anybody else want to jump on? If not, I do have. Oh, yeah, sharing. Go ahead.
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Sharon: So
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Sharon: if you're not in the full program.
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Sharon: what?
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Sharon: I mean, we we can work with this model that you shared. But I guess. What? What would you? What would be tips
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Sharon: like if you wanted to find a coach?
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Sharon: you know, closer to you what to look for, maybe
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Sharon: because it's I'm not sure how coaching works. If
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Sharon: most coaches
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Sharon: have these kinds of tools.
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Sharon: Or
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Sharon: is it more like
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Sharon: this optimal bone? Health approach is not conventional.
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Sharon: I've
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Sharon: things you're doing are, you know, just different.
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Sharon: Then, you know
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Sharon: that's am I making.
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Edie Feffer: Yeah. How to find a coach who can support you in your health goals, managing your mindset.
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Sharon: Or or even resources for if you know, we'd want to continue in this on our own, even.
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Edie Feffer: Who?
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Sharon: Possible.
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Edie Feffer: Yeah.
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Edie Feffer: Brenda, do you wanna start with that? Or do you want me to take that one.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Go ahead and share. So definitely looking at I.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Our or Edie's coaching approach, I mean is nice and lovely, and curated by Edie herself. So I would encourage all of you to Google her if you want to. If you're looking for additional coaching. And then I would also say, too, that in Part 2, I think we'll share some additional tools. So maybe you got a few things today that you were like, yes, I'm gonna do that. But I want to take it even further. I think some of the additional tools that we'll do in part
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: to are also gonna help support you in that journey, and we'll keep bringing up stuff like this as well. Like, I think one of the really amazing things that Edie shared earlier, which, when I was working with patients, I think was always a really great place to start, is taking that goal and that ideal outcome and making it as small as possible to start with, because that's gonna make it more manageable for you. And then also, as you do get all of these tools, I know that overwhelming
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: is a huge issue for everyone. I mean this, we we have so many things to share. And it's really it's hard, because, you know, if you're not working with someone, one on one, it's hard to know what's gonna resonate with people. So we want you to see all your options. So it's really about looking at those things and picking that thing that does resonate with you because momentum is gonna be one of the biggest impacts of your change, too.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: And not just like I have all these things I have to do. And instead, focusing on what seems important to me that I'm gonna stick. With that I'm motivated to try. But yeah, Edie, do you have any other thoughts on that.
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Edie Feffer: ju just that. I think, finding an aligned fit for private one on one. Coaching, takes patience right and
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Edie Feffer: I love private one on one coaching, and when I'm looking for a coach I it's as much of an interview process for me as I know it is for the coach right? And so just encouraging you to be patient as you look for the right fit.
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Edie Feffer: like you would with it. With.
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Edie Feffer: yeah.
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Edie Feffer: any other program that you're exploring.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: And you guys can all fall. I, Edie, you're more than welcome to share your website and your social media handle, too. If you guys.
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Edie Feffer: Okay, thanks. Yeah. I. When I'm here, I always have my oh, chat on. I'm coaching with Dr. Doug. But I do have a private practice. Where I coach on food, freedom, weight, loss, life, design, stress management. And I'm an eft practitioner. And so if that's something you're wanting to explore whether it's through a single session or myself. Study program or coursework know that you can get more information. My website is Edfeffercom.
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Edie Feffer: I'm also on social media. And I love connecting with Oh, patients there. And yeah, feel free to let us know if you have any questions.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Amazing awesome. Well, with that I think we'll go ahead and wrap up for right now. We're gonna take all the other questions and comments, and you can go ahead and put those in the live follow up session in slack, and I believe I'm not looking at slack right now. But I do think we also have a like stress management mindset channel, too. So any other things. We can put in there and utilize that tool as a
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: just as a resource to continue connecting. I think some people have pointed out, like really well in the chat, that this is a really supportive community. And I think that can be one of the thoughts, too, that, as you, you know, run those those models, and when you feel alone and overwhelm that you do have this amazing community here, who's happy to support you and can really relate, and all the things that you're going through, resonate with them. So really utilize that as well.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: And just thanks again, Edie, for sharing all of your wisdom and tools with us, and then I'll post what we went over today in the slack channel, and then we'll find a date for Part 2, and we can go through some additional tools.
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Edie Feffer: Great. Yeah, thank you for all your help, Brett.
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Breta, MS, RDN, OHH TEAM: Yeah, of course, have a great day. Everyone.
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Edie Feffer: Okay. You too.